You can talk a good game about being a modern person, but it’s time you put your money where your mouth is... Passively waiting for a hottie to make a move is simply not acceptable behavior for a fearless like yourself. Sure, it can be a little intimidating to approach a dude, but it puts you in control of your dating destiny, and besides — guys really like it. "Men find it refreshing when others asks them out," Says Rhonda Findling, psychotherapist and author of The Dating Cure. "Beyond that, it's empowering for yourself." Some tips for taking this bold step. Buy Him a Drink If a guy catches your eye while you’re out with friends, send over a beer. Since it forces him to make the next move and say thank you, it’s a stealth way of letting him know you're interested. Suggest a Super Guy-Friendly Outing Try to gauge what the guy you've set your sights on is into. Here's how: As you're chatting him up, ask him what he did over the weekend. Then, casually suggest something similar — whether it be going out for wings or to the batting cages — for the following Friday. Invite Him on a Group Date If you can't quite bring yourself to suggest solo time together, try inviting him out with a bunch of your friends which will make you feel more at ease. One caveat: Avoid having your Giselle look-a-like pal tag along — you want to make sure his eyes stay glued to you. If You Lose Your Nerve... Really can't bring yourself to invite a dude out? Then give him the green light to ask you. After flirting for a bit say something like, "Have you heard about this new movie? I've been dying to see it." It will give him the perfect opportunity to suggest you see it together — and because you've hinted at what you want to do, it takes some of the planning pressure off him. Perfect!